The New Podcasts begin NEXT WEEK!!

Hi everyone, I have exciting news! As of next week I will be releasing new weekly Podcasts!

Didn’t know that I had a Podcast channel? Well, not only are the last 10 episodes available via Itunes and most Android sites, you can also download the entire 13 podcasts via the below link, direct from The Lonely Spaceman site itself. I will also be available on even more sites in two weeks.

https://thelonelyspaceman.org/category/podcast/

Next week I am going to give you a sneak peak at the new intro and then we are getting right into it. I thank you all for your patience. As some of you know, I go to great lengths to try to make these podcasts as professional as possible, and I think I’ve raised the bar once again with these new releases. I hope you think the same.

So get ready, because as of next week The Lonely Spaceman Podcasts will be released on your favorite sites.

Thanks

Chapter 5, part 21, How to challenge yourself spiritually (part 4)

Challenging your thoughts is one way to test your spirituality whilst another way is to challenge the body. You have heard of the stories. Some of them are about climbing Everest, walking the Camino trail, doing a 1 month yoga retreat, travelling to India and of course, packing your bags and jumping on the first flight out of here. These are all ways that people challenge themselves physically, yet there does appear to be one common psychological thread that makes these experiences so impacting to the individual.

Before I tell you what that common thread is let me ask you a question. Have you ever heard of the Camino trail? I’ve personally done long trails before though haven’t ever done anything like this. It’s a pilgrimage from either France or East Spain (you can choose where you want to start) to North West Spain. On any given day you can walk from 20 to 50k’s going from one hostel to the next. Along the way you see some nice views and meet some kind locals, yet, it’s more about the journey than seeing the sights. The journey is around 4 to 6 weeks so there is a lot of time to be with your thoughts.

A friend of mine who did the Camino came back calmer than I had ever seen her. It reminded me of when I came back from India and had the same calm, content, easy going, no rush attitude that most of us want in life. Not only was her mind clear though she also became aware of all the superficial bulls^#t that we all worry about all the time. She found that these daily ‘things’ we often complain about (and get frustrated over) were something she couldn’t connect with anymore. It was like watching children bicker over the remote control. And although my friends new lease on life only lasted for a couple of months (as eventually she would reacclimatise herself to other people’s version of reality) during that time she was clear, appreciative of a simple life, and an observer of events rather than being swept up by them. She was present.

The common thread that I was alluding to earlier was the time and space we have to ourselves whilst undertaking these journeys. It’s a long separation and/or humbling experience that distances our mind so far from the rushing 9 to 5 world, that it allows us to see the bigger picture. These types of experiences take us away from our phones, the internet, TV, Netflix, people complaining about useless s&^t, and all the other countless options for us to fill our time. They also give us space to walk through our thoughts until we don’t need to anymore. When these thoughts fade and enough time has elapsed watching TV suddenly becomes a novelty, as does meaningless chores that we used to see as a bother. Life becomes one of appreciation and not of things to do.

The above also makes sense in an evolutionary way. Our minds have never been so over stimulated than what they are today. Even 100 years ago there was no TV and many people didn’t even listen to the radio on a regular basis. They sat in silence, they were forced to talk to each other and most of their escapism was either through physical or reading activities.

So to summarise, presence occurs when all thoughts and emotions that are tied to the past and future are not clouding our present experience. Presence is a form of being content with who we are whilst not being driven by our ego/identity. This is the reason why people say that it is not something you fight for but rather something that you accept. But please remember this very important point. To find something like presence we sometimes have to walk the path to find out that we didn’t need to. And trust me, that path is one of the most exciting journeys you will ever take.

She was Present Jamie Lee Woodman a.k.a The Lonely Spaceman

Chapter 5, part 20, How to challenge yourself spiritually (part 3)

Challenging life can mean challenging your thoughts. To do this you will need to pay attention to what you are thinking at any given moment. This being said, paying attention to everything is overwhelming so you might just want to focus on one specific topic of concern at a time. A great example of this is when a potential partner is around you. Do you say to yourself ‘this is a beautiful person I would like to speak to’ or ‘I’m not good enough to speak to them.’ And if your thoughts do go towards a negative response then this is a great opportunity to follow the rabbit hole by asking:

Why did I say that?

What do I gain emotionally from saying that?

When did I start stating that?

What experience did I have which led me to this statement?

What reinforced this belief?

Does this belief system reflect reality or only my perception of reality?

Does this belief really reflect who I am today?

A while ago I wrote a blog about the power of questions. You are already asking yourself thousands of questions each day yet often (because they are automatic) they can be limiting ones. The above questions bring the ego into account. It challenges your identity though only if you answer the questions properly.

If the above questions are answered egotistically you will undoubtable give bias negative responses reinforcing the belief you already have. But if you ask it openly without prior presumption/identity or ego then the only truth is that you are as welcomed to speak to that other person as much as anyone else is. Any emotional reactions connected to your responses means that you are bringing a belief system into the equation.

Now don’t get me wrong, of course our history of experiences has created our identity and there are many amazing life lessons we need to hold onto. Yet I am specifically talking about the identity that thinks we are not as good as others, that we don’t deserve better, that our life is destined to be crap, that life is depressive, and, that there is no hope. This is not factual but rather a limited perception of a bruised ego. Our mind put 2 and 2 together from life experiences though forgot to calculate the other 96%.

That 96% (which is closer to 99.9%) includes every other experience you have had in life. And although you may have taken this one specific lesson into your adulthood (by blowing it out of proportion in your mind which in return created limiting beliefs and blockages) it certainly doesn’t mean that this belief has to continue. As stated above, it can be stopped by being present and calling yourself out on thoughts that no longer have a place in today’s reality.

Okay, so I used the ‘asking a person out’ example though please don’t stop there. Apply this rule to moments of anxiety around family, work colleagues, daily life and even politics. I am aware that this may not be easy at first, yet by continually catching yourself in emotional responses (and then querying them) your brain will eventually get the point. And that point is that the past no longer reflects your present self. Plus, although it may take further time till you finally believe this (and even further time till physical reactions then represent themselves to your new way of thinking) it is the beginning of a new positive and aware mindset.

(part 4 will be out next week)

Confront the ego Jamie Lee Woodman a.k.a The Lonely Spaceman

Chapter 5, part 19, How to challenge yourself spiritually (part 2)

The spiritual path can be anything you want. It can be a fluffy journey of fun, colour, connection with others and promiscuous sex. Yet it can also be about tearing down your walls so that you can see clearer. The smart people are the ones that try to achieve both.

Those that are content with life will often not choose to challenge it, and why would you? If things are going well then keep those barrels rolling. Yet those that feel unsatisfied with how they view the world and with who they perceive themselves to be within it are often the ones seeking to challenge their ego. People who are quick to anger, depression or anxiety may also seek this path along with those who simply don’t feel like they belong in the world. Blaming ourselves for this disconnection is common whilst frustration for those that appear to ‘get it’ is also natural.

Not only is the above not true (as most people feel out of place throughout their life yet they ignore it or hide it well) but this feeling can be seen as a calling. The subconscious mind is screaming that something needs to shift and that a change needs to happen. This is an awareness of self and is what leads people to blogs, podcasts and videos (such as this) for possible guidance, education and bad jokes. Ahem…

Although change is what we might seek the hardest thing consciousness can do is question its own reality. In the mind, the difference between having a ground beneath our feet and defining ourselves as a good or bad person is not so different. The ego needs control of its reality and therefore the emotions that are tied heavily to our identity try desperately to hold on. This is because without our identity then who are we? What is left? I guess it’s just limbo.

As scary as limbo may be this is the perfect time to listen to our inner selves without the influence of our ego. Guidance then often comes hard and fast with heightened enthusiasm, yet the things it may ask of us are often not what we would have expected. Quit that job, leave that house or partner, stop hanging with those friends, take up dancing, do surfing, stop smoking, isolate yourself and so forth. And when these flooding ideas come to us we have to be careful not to go straight to thoughts such as ‘that’s stupid’ or ‘I’m too old’ or ‘that’s too hard’. This is the ego creeping back. Instead, the spiritual journey is about going with the flow and the enthusiasm that comes with it.

If you decide to take a massive spiritual journey you need to question everything. Be like the annoying child who always asks ‘why’ and keeps asking ‘why’ until an answer becomes prevalent and can’t be anything else. Most things tend to have answers and yet at times you find questions such as ‘does a tree in the woods make a sound?’ and you realise that not all things are straight forward. Each of us has a question such as this which gives us this eureka moment where we go ‘aaahhhh’ and get goose bumps. And if you keep following down the spiritual path this s#$t happens all the time! You can be like Alice falling down the rabbit hole.

(Part 3 of this blog will be coming next week)

Identity Theory Jamie Lee Woodman a.k.a The Lonely Spaceman

Chapter 5, part 18, How to challenge yourself spiritually (part 1)

If we want to make a spiritual change in our life we have to challenge our ego. It must be done this way because our ego is a part of us and not something that can be removed. It’s best described as a sense of self, so if we were to get rid of it completely there would be no ‘self’ remaining. And as cool as this sounds it’s simply not possible to lose one’s ego whilst alert and in our duel form.

So if the ego is who we are and what defines us then how can we possibly challenge or change it? This question is actually simple. Take the scientific method for instance (I have added the template in this blog). If you are able to remain objectionable beyond your own belief systems then this process is possible. The conundrum with this is that to remain objectionable you may require the ability to be self-aware and present. And because this is what we are trying to achieve in certain areas of our life (therefore alluding to the fact that we may not be there yet) how does one get to this state? Well, that’s what this chapter is all about.

We are all objectionable about certain things. It’s a natural part of evolution. The issues around objectivity only arise when it comes to us being emotionally connected to identity. Examples are: I am left/right wing, I am a loser, I am a failure, life is unfair (faithless), Earth is flat and global warming is not real (conspiracy theorist), people are inherently bad (jaded), life is unjust (defeatist), I have no ego (egoic), Brisbane are a great AFL team (delusional) and so forth. These are just examples (except for the Brisbane thing) and each belief system can be linked to multiple different identities that we may have beyond the ones listed above.

It is when we are emotionally bias towards one point of view (with or without scientific evidence to back up our case) that we know our ego is getting involved. And the reason why sorting through our ego is often called a spiritual journey is because we are trying to tear down our belief systems (which were created across our life) to get to the core of our wants and desires. Some people will use the metaphor of ‘finding your inner child’ and yet I try to avoid saying this, as it sounds like you are being childish as opposed to doing what YOU actually want in life.

(Part 2 of this blog will be released next week as this is a big one)

Scientific method Jamie Lee Woodman a.k.a The Lonely Spaceman

Chapter 5, part 17, Procrastination and over thinking

If you procrastinate and over think then that means one specific thing, you’re human. Yet some of us procrastinate more than others. Over the last year I have witnessed three separate situations that relate to this.

Situation 1. Jane (this is a made up name) is a person that is having an issue with addiction. Jane wants to get better though fears many things about her life. It’s perfectly normal to feel this way yet beyond her current worries is the fear that others will find out and judge her. This makes the addiction worse because now she not only worries about the addiction itself, though also about hiding the signs of it whilst being around others. Jane wants to get better and is trying to, yet this pressure is even supressing her need to go to the doctors to seek help.

Situation 2. Bob (clearly a made up name) is a person who has been looked after by his parents for most of his life. It’s now gotten to the point where he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions or inactions. When it comes to moving out of home, organising bills and even organising presents for others he simply breaks down and says that he can’t do it. There is always an excuse such as ‘I don’t have enough money’ or ‘I am going through some emotional problems right now’ or ‘people don’t understand me’ and so forth. And although I make no joke about this person’s situation and the seriousness of these types of belief systems, it is a clear underlining issue that constantly arises with him and his family/friends.

Situation 3. Me. Not that long ago I re-begun blogging after taking an extended break, and when I did, I found that coming back was much harder than it needed to be. I also started noticing that everything was getting harder. This was mostly because I had moved house, was working more and I found it hard to find time, yet there was something else bugging me that I couldn’t put my finger on. I was struggling with my band, my work, my leisure and my health because I couldn’t lock down any decisions. This was mostly because I was questioning my own capabilities. For months I was stuck, in a rut and not myself. And furthermore, it had been so long since I had had any type of success that I thought I was cursed. I was waiting for a break, I was waiting for some luck, and I was waiting for guidance that didn’t come.

So what happened with me? Well, I never got that break, but, I did hit a breaking point. It was clear that nothing was changing and that luck wasn’t coming my way so I decided I needed to work this one out myself. One night I sat down and put the intention in my mind that I wanted to resolve this. I didn’t add pressure or a timeframe; I just decided that I was ready for change. Over the next day’s I witnessed what was happening and questioned why I couldn’t move forward. It then hit me. I was my own worst enemy. I was procrastinating everything by trying to be a perfectionist. My fear of not getting things done correctly and failing consumed me whilst the worry of being rejected and letting others down also had blocked my ability to move forward.

After realising what I was doing I decided to simply jump in the deep end. I went online and released a blog even though I wasn’t 100% satisfied with the final product. I also found a myo-therapist I had been procrastinating about. The next day I filled out those crappy documents, paid the bills, made applications for gigs whilst ignoring the fear of rejection, and finally, I let go of the excuses I was making to myself. The weird thing about this experience is that I started at 10pm at night as soon as inspiration hit me. I got momentum and then took the remaining actions the following day. Many things that had taken me months to even start were now finished within 24 hours. And furthermore, this momentum grew more and more over the following months till I had achieved many things I didn’t anticipate.

In regards to the first two situations, well, they are still working through the motions. And given the seriousness of what they are going through (compared to my little blockage) this is understandable. I have not offered advice as it would not be appropriate or accepted at this time. I wish them both the best in their journey and will be there for them when and if they ask.

I told this story today because we can all get blocked. We doubt ourselves, we worry about others opinions or hurting them, we fear failure and we can question everything we do. At certain points in our life we can feel like we are kings and queens, whilst on other days we can feel like we have no confidence or self-love. And it is for this reason that I share this story. Going through situations such as this doesn’t mean that we are stupid. It just means that we are human.

To overcome my own situation I started by making the decision that I was ready to do so. I put my intentions out into the world and once my mind had permission to seek the answers without anger or frustration (I did this by not setting a time limit or expectations) I opened myself up to messages around me. When the penny dropped and incite came I then went with the momentum. I have been discussing this process and many more throughout this chapter and do believe that it is the power of presence whilst standing back from the ego.

The next blog (topic) will be the last in this chapter before we move onto ‘The Ego and the Observer’. It’s very much connected to presence and is key in the process of self-healing.

Procrastinate Jamie Lee Woodman a.k.a The Lonely Spaceman

Chapter 5, part 16, Go with the flow. How do you know when to trust your instincts?

The basic answer to this question is never. Why? Because any decision you make will have either a positive or negative outcome, which inevitably, leads to further decisions and outcomes which you never saw coming. This means that it doesn’t matter which choice you make as you will never see the long distant benefits or dis-benefits from the initial decision. It is part of chaos theory.

The above is a little ‘chill the f$%k out’ message from yours truly. And when you look at it this way anxiety and overthinking seems pointless and a little bit silly. This is one of the many reasons why going with the flow can be positive, though like most things in life we can’t simply dive in 100%. Sometimes we still need to stop and look at the greater picture.

The first issue with going with the flow is that it alludes to having no guidance from your consciousness. Therefore, if we want to do mature things such as buying a house and having kids then you must realise that this might not be the path you take. The spiritual reason behind going with the flow is not about doing what you are supposed to do, but rather, what you want to do. And these aren’t necessarily adult decisions.

The other problem around ‘going with the flow’ is that you offer your life’s decisions to other people. If your friends are not a positive influence then this can very quickly lead you to negative decision and experience. Yet if you do it with those that are looking after your best interests the experiences can be positive and aimed towards self-development and exploration.

So the question regarding when to go with the flow, like many, is based on a tipping scale and a balance between where you are in life, who you are around, and what you need.

This is today’s topic of discussion because ‘going with the flow’ is often talked about when referencing presence and mindfulness. It alludes to a supressed identity which is hidden by the fake person you portray yourself to be. This ‘fake’ person is the one that conforms to the 9 to 5 world, waits in line for 5 hours to get that next Iphone, and feels the need to have to go onto social media every 10 minutes in fear of FOMO or being out of touch.

Decisions we make to liberate us can sometimes be the same ones that end up owning us. That initial brilliant idea to earn money or own that new item gets old fast. We then repeat the process because it’s an easy serotonin release which our brain gets used to. The issue though, is that these things do not fulfil all our needs and therefore we keep yearning for more and more yet never being fully satisfied.

Going with the flow is about leaving behind your conscious decision making. Conscious decisions come from your identity and therefore do not reflect the inner self and its needs. Yet when we go with the flow we open up to any and every possibility. Our ego doesn’t get a chance to choose because it was never asked to make a decision in the first place. And this is the reason why you might find the things you actually want in life rather than what you think you want.

You don’t have to do this all the time though I do believe it’s beneficial to have a week or a month of doing this, so that you can see the other side of yourself.  Be aware of the dangers (as listed above) but note that it can be a great way to lift the pressure of decisions off of your shoulders whilst leading you to finding your inner purpose and meaning.

The Flow Jamie Lee Woodman a.k.a The Lonely Spaceman